Often we think those who are in misery would not be the right ones to talk to if we are suffering from the same thing. When I found out I could never have children, I was a lonely miserable woman. I chose to be that way. I did not want to be around those who had kids, even the women who I thought were my best friends. I wallowed in self pity.
How did I bring myself out of it? I decided to look for women who could not have children and talk to them about their problems and how they dealt with it. I wanted to minister to them, I guess. I know it seems crazy. I mean how could I minister to them when I felt so miserable? I found that the more I talked to them, the better I started to feel about the situation and myself. I started to think, God brought me to this for a reason and maybe that was the reason. To talk to others about it. As the saying goes, "If he brings you to it, He can bring yo through it.."
They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.
6 He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him.
If you are hurting, the best thing to do is find someone else who is, and talk to him or her about what is going on and how you solved your problems. Give them hope and let them know someone else cares.